To hold men's romantic approaches against them is to doom one's own dating scene.

An optimal dating scene is a fluid one, where participants feel free to pursue their romantic interests and, in the process, gain a deeper understanding of their own desires and values at a higher rate than those in a scene with fewer romantic approaches and partners. This fluidity can be fostered in two ways: removing the societal stigma attached to romantic rejection and encouraging both sexes to be open-minded and courteous in the initial approach. To hold men's romantic approaches against them is to create a rigid dating scene - one where fewer and fewer people take the risk of approaching, ultimately dooming it.